An English Rose
To protect the identity of my most important hypnotherapy client from 1991, I shall be using this euphemism. And by all accounts, it is an apt description. But she had a late teenage coping mechanism well into her 30’s. In fact, she told me in her first session that she’d been bulimic for the previous 20 years.
Everyone who attended my hypnotherapy sessions was asked to give me their birth details, if known. She knew hers, so I drew up her birth chart, not shown here, for privacy reasons.
There was one major inconjunct involving the Moon (in her 1st House of Personality) and the Sun (in her 8th House of Death). This was where her basic internal conflict played out.
Sun Inconjunct Moon
This aspect suggests that there is a subtle conflict going on inside you that may sometimes create emotional problems. The Sun signifies your conscious personality, the way in which you act and the kinds of activities that you like to get involved in. The Moon signifies the emotional and less conscious side of you. It indicates the habits that take over when you are not acting consciously and feelings that come up from deep inside you. The inconjunct aspect between the Sun and Moon means that the Sun part of your personality is quite different from the Moon part, and it may be hard for you to relate them to each other. It is as if you are divided in two, so that whenever you have to make an important decision, especially one that involves your feelings, the different sides of your personality want to go in opposite directions. You sometimes find it difficult to decide if you like something or if you want to take part in some activity.
But a much more difficult problem arises if you decide that one of these personalities is good and the other bad, so that you try to repress and hold down any behavior from the “bad” side. Unfortunately, that only makes it more difficult to handle that side, so that you have intense urges to do things that you think you should not do. You begin to act in ways that betray the image of yourself that you are trying to build up.
The only solution is to accept both sides of your personality, for they are both you, and it is important to express them both. It is only your attitude of rejection that makes one side good and the other side bad.
Preteen wish not to grow up — early teens modeled on mother — weight put on: avoidance of social contact — 6th form diet (12 stone to 9 stone) to look good for summer hols after ‘A’ levels — pattern set in — no serious boyfriend until 21 (he was 32) — married 10 years ago to John — more like friends…Notes from 1st interview
These notes were written BEFORE I raised her birth chart, so I already knew what the issue was. In those days I really didn’t focus on inconjuncts, but the Moon in the first house and the Sun in the eighth were enough for me to see that she had a kind of death wish: she wanted to eat, but she didn’t want the consequences of eating. As most bulimics understand, they want to be invisible, but aren’t suicidal (at least not on a conscious level).
We had many weekly sessions for about six months, and then she stopped coming to see me. About a year later, she popped in one day, and showed me that she was pregnant. I believe that had been her goal all the time, but the bulimia was getting in the way of her conceiving a child. Then, eighteen months after that, I met her on the street, in town, and she had her beautiful baby girl with her. Her child looked at me strangely (my Canadian accent probably confused her) and I wondered if she knew that her mother’s sessions with me allowed her to be born. I like to think so. Anyway, it’s a hypnotherapy success story, if ever there was one.